Lee Kwan Yù once commented about the quality of leaders in a country. He suggested that a country should be led by its smartest members and that they should be honest , transparent and paid according to fair market rates. He ended with the warning that electing those that seem cheap leads to cheap and corrupt government. I would loudly make the same arguments about friends.
I therefore celebrate all those who have been honest and transparent in friendship. I am most grateful for those who helped me be a better human being. Those with whom I collaborated with to turn nice ideas into reality are especially dear to my heart. Family is a private matter and no one has much choice about that. That means that good to and from them is nothing special to front in public. Community and friends have the biggest dividends in terms of social outcomes. Families that elect leaders simply because they are blood relatives or have the same skin color have been responsible for much suffering.
It may sound contradictory but we are genetically wired to love our own family over and above everyone else. Learning to tame that love for family for the sake of others is where we have the most struggle.
A breakdown of family has a lot to do with the community and the philosophy that governs that community more than anything else.
Formerly enslaved or colonized people find it too hard to have healthy relationships regardless of how wealthy they might be. That is just a fact. America, South Africa, Israel and Brazil are interesting case studies. I specifically chose those communities for their contrast between the indigenous people who lived there before the current inhabitants. Those countries have great inequalities that threaten to tear them apart. Yet the same countries boast some of the most resilient indigenous people whose cultures have lasted for thousands of years of sustainable existence.
There are many selfless people in all three countries who have continued to support justice for people suffocating from legally sanctioned oppression. The actions of such outsiders can bring about radical changes in any country.
As I start the new season, I am mindful of my duty to community and friends. I salute all who have supported me in my endeavors and offer my solidarity with those sitting on the fence. May we all find strength to do that which is right even when it is not comfortable.
Saying happy new year to me is one thing, doing it another. Steve Biko, Edward Said, John Brown and Carlos Mariategui immediately come to mind as folks who have set great examples of taking responsibility. Making this year the year of responsibility. For that, I am willing to pay fair market rates to bring that dream to reality. But the first down-payment is holding myself responsible to those principles.